I have recently become involved with a man who has benign tremors and am eager to find as much info as possible.We have a wonderful sex life but,he seems to have a problem with ejecalating and I wonderered if this was a side affect of the tremours.He is not on any drugs as in the past he says they were unefffective.Any info appreciated

i have had essential tremor since i was 13 yes a few drinks help but not too many makes it millions times worse next day cruelly i have nicknames of shaky but worst parky (parkinsons) person with raised pulse in hand i have same mine is an erupted artery hence the pulse somedays bigger than others took 5 yrs to diagnose prob from lifting in work take photo when raised and get mri scan if u cut an artery it can be dangerous

I have had essential tremor for about 15 years now. It is mostly in my hands and when I'm feeling anxious or nervous it gets worse and sometimes makes my head shake. I get so hung up and worry what people must think but that just makes it worse. It is slightly reassuring to know that there are fellow sufferers out there and it has been interesting to read some of the things you have done / taken to try and overcome this problem

im 20 and for the last few months iv been really ill, but the doctor things im anemic and given me iron tablets, i have days i be sick and have shakes in my hands some times in my legs, i had a period of a week or so i could work because i being sick and shakes really bad i couldnt drive. iv been taking my tablets since about july but i dont feel better or worse with them so i think its some thing else. a friend told me to check this out. i would love some help :) its horrible beeing 20 and shaking when out in work/ public . would love some help or advice. as my doctor dont seem to help . k xx

I have had Benign Essential Tremor since my earliest childhood. This condition must not be confused with Essential Tremor which normally develops in later life from any time after middle age and usually indicates a progressive illness. No one else in my family suffers and although I have encountered many vague and nebulous learning difficulties as I grew up and also tend to have a mild form of depression, I do not other wise find it has seriously affected my adult life. I do not rely on drugs - no chemical lobotomy for me thanks. I do find that cheats, like over sized mugs(you can have a normal sized cuppa in it but it can't slop over the rim and embarrass you) help. I had a special writing mat at school which sort of gripped the exercise book so it was easier to write on it and I often wish I had one now when writing notes or letters. Typing is annoying too, so many typos to go back and correct. And yes, I find that beige carpet, coupled with the host offering generous glasses of red plonk at parties a nightmare. Mostly, I find that if you keep a sense of humour in social settings it is all OK. There are worse things to live with.

I have suffered from shaky hands, especially my left, since I was approx 13/14years old I am 43 now, my father also has this condition but his did not come on till age 30, I have 3 children, my eldest son age 17, has it also since age 15 although at the moment much less severe than myself,my other two teenagers are not affected as yet and hopefully wont be!,my main problem is drinking from a cup,especially in social events of which i am very aware of my shake, i am not a nervous person but ofcourse people always think that i am, i cannot carry a cup on a saucer, and i struggle holding paper up to read from it in a working enviroment, my hands only are affected, as is the same with my son, but my father who is now 75+ is affected very dramatically with a head shake also coming on in his 50s, he struggles with knife and fork use,and it really affects his everyday life quite alot,he takes medication for it now.with age my tremor has increased, but not enough to take any medication in my own opinion, i do not like the ideas of beta blockers or other drugs and i try to control mine by staying off the coffee,which makes it worse,i also find mine is worse when under pressure,I also find eating red meat makes it worse for me, but thats just something i have noticed and i dont know if it is connected.over the years people have obviously commented on my shaky hands,when i was a teenager just starting out in college and work i was overly aware of it, but over the years i have just managed the best i can with it, and now explain if i think people are looking at me. my advice is try not to get too stressed by this situation as this makes it alot worse, good luck everyone.

I suffer from an essential tremor which has been diagnosed about 3 years ago. I am 28 now but have had the shakes in my hands for as long as i can remember. to be told the diagnoses and to bve told it very rarely affects anyone under 35 was a bit of a blow. One of the best things you can try is to cut out the caffiene. i did this and i noticed an improvement. Also with having suffered from asthma during my pregnancy i am never allowed to take beta blockers so i was put on a course of eplilepsy drugs called primidone. these were fab to begin with but after having my 2nd child they gave me headaches and i was forgetting things really easliy so i have come off them. Most of it is about mind over matter. If i think about it too much the worse it seems to be. Its not my whole hand that it affects just my thumbs and index fingers that suffer but in turn makes my whole hand shake. I remember one doctor i went to see accused me of being an alcoholic and did not believe it was a more serious part of my lifestyle. I currently live medication free and i know that i can control it mnost of the time, however if i am ill or if i get really hungry it can become uncontrollable. I would urge that if it affects your day to day life to get referred to a specialist who can diagnose this for you as a g.p will not give you a 100% confirmation. oh i should add my dad also suffers with this and its very common for it to run through families. I am just hoping thats none of my children are affected.

I have had benign essential tremor for as long as I can remember, I am 57 now. It has never been fully diagnosed, nobody seems to know what it is. If your only symptoms are the shakes, then the easiest way to get rid of these is to take beta blockers. At the moment I take propranolol 80mg pd. Do not expect these to work straight way, they take many months to kick in. But the funny thing about this condition is that they could work straight away, as I am sure this problem is a mind thing. And the simple fact that you are taking some form of medicine could give you instant relief. Someone mentioned that they would take betablockers only now and then. Forget it!! You have to take this things for ever. I am now addicted to them. If I stopped I would feel awful. This problem runs in the family. My Dad certainly had it, although it was certainly never diagnosed for him. He thought he was an alcoholic. After all the easiest cure for tremor (and associated panic attacks) is a drink or two. While I take betablockers my pulse rate is normal most of the time. I don't get panic attacks. I could go on and on about this condition. I don't know what the answer is. If anybody wants me to place more comments about my experiences with this condition I would be please to do so.