Conditions
Female Sexual Dysfunction
It is common for women to experience problems with sex at some stage in their lives, and often this increases as women get older. The main symptoms include loss of desire, loss of arousal, pain during and after sex, and problems reaching orgasm. Sexual desire can be affected by a drop in women’s natural levels of testosterone, but can also be caused by a number of medical problems, as well as psychological issues, such as stress and trauma.
Problems reaching orgasm can be a result of lack of stimulation, but can also be as a result of fear or inexperience. Not every women needs to orgasm to enjoy sex, but it can cause relationship issues, so Psychosexual Counselling is often recommended by GPs. Pain during sex is frequently caused by a condition called Vaginismus, where muscle contractions make sex painful. There are possible treatments, including cylindrical trainers to help adjust the vagina to intercourse.
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Im 18 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and a half. I first had sex about 4 months ago and since then I have had sex quite a lot but every time I have done this it is very painful. The pain hasn't eased much since the first time I did it, I have tried lubricants and lots of things, but it doesn't seem to be possible for it to be painless and enjoyable. Also, after I have sex I always need to pee and it burns. It also burns before I pee after and during having sex.
'R' I'm 25 n I have a similar problem, when entering I have a pain, it eases off once into the swing of things, but it means I cannot relax initally. It feels as though I have a tear on the lower wall just on the entrance, it doesn't bleed, and only tingles slightly after but it has been like this for well over a year. Sometimes when i'm completly relaxed its not too bad and I can hardly feel it, but I find it hard to fully relax all the time, we sometimes don't have sex for a week or so but it's still there. Its very frustrating as it means we cannot have sex as often as we would like.
'Not every women needs to orgasm to enjoy sex,'
We just say that to make the guy feel better.
Sex is incredibly unfair to women who do not orgasm.
Hi
I am 30 years old. I have three children. After the birth of my second child sex life was great. After my third, i had barely any sexual sensations. I do pelvic exercise every day, ten times, three times a day sometimes more, but it only help a little. During intercourse my muscles become very weak and i loss all sensation. This very embarrassing. I am afraid to have sex. I want to know if my only option is surgery and suppose i get pregnant after doing the surgery what will happen.
Hi, I'm 21 and for a while now, I have been experiencing extreme pain when my boyfriend and I first start to have sex. It eases off after while but it's so sore it puts me off having sex all together. I dont know whats causing it or why it only hurts to start off with. It's like a burning pain when he enters me and it's excruciating. Its putting a lot of stress on our relationship although he is very understanding and tries to help me as much as he can. I'm getting to the point where I'm scared to have sex because it hurts so much
im 20 years old and feel like i am letting my partner down. he likes to have sex regularly but i experience pain sometimes during and after sex, which makes me think about the pain rather than enjoying it. it really affects our relationship as my boyfriend feels i am not attracted to him cause of this. it feels like the walls of my vagina are tearing during sex and can be very very painful for some positions. it feels like the bottom part of my vagina tears too, and there's regularly blood(only small amount though – like a tear) i really wish this problem would go away so i can enjoy passtionate times with my boyfriend. its really depressing me :(
hi im 17 and have been happily sexually active for about two years, but recently something very embarassing has been happening. when i finish sex there must be trapped air or something because my body makes a noise…its so embarassing and makes me feel like a freak, its also making me not want to have sex anymore because im so embarassed. i just wish ther was a reason as to why this has just started happening? help!
I am 18 years old and i can only orgasm if i stimulate my clitorous. i have to fake my orgasm everytime me and my boyfriend have sex.why can't i orgasm through penetration please help me! x
hi im 18 years old and iv been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years, in the past year or so we'v not been having sex as much as we used to because im nt feeling like i want it, and when we do try it hurts that much and doesnt seem to even go up. its strassing me and my boyfriend out can you please help! x
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