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Female Sexual Dysfunction

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It is common for women to experience problems with sex at some stage in their lives, and often this increases as women get older. The main symptoms include loss of desire, loss of arousal, pain during and after sex, and problems reaching orgasm. Sexual desire can be affected by a drop in women’s natural levels of testosterone, but can also be caused by a number of medical problems, as well as psychological issues, such as stress and trauma.

Problems reaching orgasm can be a result of lack of stimulation, but can also be as a result of fear or inexperience. Not every women needs to orgasm to enjoy sex, but it can cause relationship issues, so Psychosexual Counselling is often recommended by GPs. Pain during sex is frequently caused by a condition called Vaginismus, where muscle contractions make sex painful. There are possible treatments, including cylindrical trainers to help adjust the vagina to intercourse.

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im 13 and ive had sex but im pregant what do i do im 6 months in 2 weeks but is it to late for obortion or should i tell my mum and or dad





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me and one of my guy mates had sex for the first time a few weeks ago and i seemed to bleed for a couple of days but it stopped so i thought everything was ok, but we did again a few days later and the same thing happened then aswell and lasted for about 4 days. is this normal to bleed for so long?





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Hello! Just a couple of things for those who are finding sex uncomfortable: If you're using condoms try ones with non-spermicidal lubricant, or try latex-free ones. Secondly, if you're NOT using condoms, maybe try them and see if it's better. And finally: if you haven't, try some different positions. Everyone's bits are a different shape, so what might have been great with one person might be painful with another! Hope any of this helps.





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my friend had sex with her boyfriend and she's been bleeing ever since its been 3 weeks now and she's worried its not normal. she feels embarrassed. is this normall?





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what is the treatment for Vaginismus? and what is cylindrical trainer? please can you help me!





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Hi I'm nearly 18 I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now and we pretty much have no sex life at all now because we are both too scared about it hurting me. Its so frustrating as we used to do it like everyday like 3 times a day the first year and a half we started seeing each other. I don't know what happened to start the pain its just when he goes deep its so painful it puts me right off carrying on, its never been like this before I'm too embarassed to see my G.P about it but I'm scared it could be serious. I could wear tampons comfortably before this all started and now when I put one in it feels like there's something stopping it from going in to the stage where you can't feel it and its comfortable. Now its uncomfortable to wear one. Its ruining my relationship slowly I need your help!!!





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hi there i had exactly the same thing as you describe, my gp thought it was endometriosis, so i went into hospital to have a laparoscopy, and they found fibroids which they removed and now everything is fine, s i would encourage you to visit your gp.

I'm 18 years old, and I've been having sex with my boyfriend for 10 months. In the past 6 months, my vagina has become really sore after sex. It stings afterwards and when I go to the toilet, and usually hurts for 20-60 minutes after. This didn't happen when we used condoms, however since I'm on the mini pill we don't use them anymore. He's quite well endowned and it's always hard for him to enter my vagina too. It hardly ever hurts during sex, but afterwards it gets so sore that I have to lie down for half an hour just to deal with the pain. We've tried more foreplay to make me more wet beforehand, but it still happens. This is causing a problem, as both of us are a lot more cautious about sex now and I always know that it will hurt afterwards.





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Hi, I am 43 years old, married with a 21 months old baby boy. 4 years before falling pregnant, back in 2004, I noticed a huge loss of sexual drive. Then I also noticed that I was lactating and because both my husband and I were trying for a baby, my GP put me on a course of hormone so that my level of prolactin could be brought down. Our GP also explained that this high level of prolactin could cause a loss of libido and to make sure there was no tumour in my brain, I had a MRI wich appeared normal. 6 years later my libido is not getting any better especially now that I am breasffeeding. My relationship with my husband is at a all time low and I have no sexual drive at all. My questions to you is 1)what level of prolactin should I have before considering taking a hormone treatment to bring down the level of prolactin 2)is there any other treatment to bring back my sexual drive? 3) will counselling help? thank you Abbi





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I'm 39 yrs old, and I've never had an orgasm I get so far and then sensation suddenly goes and I feel nothing I'm not sure if its mental or physical? I was married to a man for 8 years and had Sexual counselling but it didn't work. I'm now in a relationship with a woman and we have the same problem. I also feel very bloated the day after any sexual activity. Can anyone help me please?





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I'm 30 and have what seems the exact same problem. Did anyone get back to you with helpful advice?

i am a 25 year old female, i have basically a non existant sex life. I have been with my partner for three years he is very considerate and caring with the situation but it is ruining my relationship.When having intercourse it hurts trying to start off and when in certain positions i get really bad pains.After intercourse, i sometimes get like period pains and going on the toilet it stings and my vagina is sore and tender for days after. Can anybody help im so embarrased going to the docs, ive been before and was basically ignored and just was asked if i have been tested for any sexual diseases, this has already been done by the brook as a yearly test,and has come back clear, I have only had two sexual partners what is wrong.





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