Conditions
Female Sexual Dysfunction
It is common for women to experience problems with sex at some stage in their lives, and often this increases as women get older. The main symptoms include loss of desire, loss of arousal, pain during and after sex, and problems reaching orgasm. Sexual desire can be affected by a drop in women’s natural levels of testosterone, but can also be caused by a number of medical problems, as well as psychological issues, such as stress and trauma.
Problems reaching orgasm can be a result of lack of stimulation, but can also be as a result of fear or inexperience. Not every women needs to orgasm to enjoy sex, but it can cause relationship issues, so Psychosexual Counselling is often recommended by GPs. Pain during sex is frequently caused by a condition called Vaginismus, where muscle contractions make sex painful. There are possible treatments, including cylindrical trainers to help adjust the vagina to intercourse.
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Hi I'm 20 years old and have problems with sex I have always had problems since I lost my virginity ( not by choice) I have never had a orgasim by penatration only by clitoral pleasure, everytime I have sex it hurts alot and I bleed a bit and as soon as he penatrats me I go knumb ( same with toys ) I Cnt use a tampon either because it hurts. Any way after I have had sex I get a hurtful burning sensation that lasts usually 3 days, I was sexually abused when I was 12 up untill I was 16 and I can't help thinking I'm like this now because of that but I have been like this since day one, I have been to the doctors and they did a swab even that made me cry it was so painful, Im 20 I'm ment to be enjoying sex not being happy not having it, it does have a awful impact on my relationships and I Cnt do it any more I've tryed so many times to get it sorted at the doctors and they Cnt do any think they don't no what the problem is, they have tested for sti's and everything but nuffin all came back clear, I dnt no what else to do now does any body have an idea??
I have been through this myself, I was repeatedly abused emotionally and sexually by my mum's exes. What you I think describe is where you aren't sexually aroused. You must learn what makes you feel good and sexy. You musn't have penetrative sex when you feel pain. Good loving satisfying sex shouldn't usually be painful. You need a specialist, someone who can identify yuour issues and help you resolve them asd I can see it's getting you down. Please don't have sex with men who don't value you as that makes the problems worse. The abuse was about control and power. The abuser felt they had this over you. You must learn to get your power back and take control of you. You are valuable and a good person, Try not to let men deprive you of your self worth. You need to start taking care of you. Nice treats jusat enjoying who you are and yu might find that you meet a man who would be gentle with you and you might feel ok.The pain might not be psychological.http://www.sda.uk.net/ is the website about this I hope I have helped
I'm 14 years old, and every time I feel around my vagina near the entrance to my vagina it feels like I have a blister type bubble thing! I'm not to sure if thos is normal or not, it does not give me no pain or discomfort, I'm rather worried about it, weather I have to have it checked out or not?
im 15 and havent had sex yet, but will be soon. there is something that seems to be blcking my vaginal opening, i have been broken in, but it is quite painful when i touch it, or when i get fingered. im very worried. someone please help!
i am having the except same problem! i am the same age, and i broke my hymen by accident after diving and splitting my vagina. i'm worried also. please help! x
I am in a good, loving and very sexually active relationship. However, my partner or myself can never bring me to reach orgasm. He tries his hardest and this really gets him down. Also, when we have intercourse it always hurts and returns to being quite tight. Was just wondering if anyone knew how to help or what this might be? Thanks
Im 40 and have been in a relationship for 16 years. My sex drive has just fallen off the face of the earth. i am so distressed by it. I find the thought of having sex repulsive and will not be intimate as this always leads to sex. I really am struggling as it makes me feel abnormal and unfeminine.
hi, im 15 years old and have hair loss but only on my eyebrows. i relly don't know wha to do????
I am a 51 year old woman. I have never found sex enjoyable and have never been given an orgasm by another human being. Over my life, each partner has had an affair due to my lack of interest which has also left me distrustful. My current long term partner of 8 years is now losing patience. I am seeing a sexual therapist but the appointments are a month apart. The first month I had to do pelvic floor exercises, the second month I have to play with food in my mouth ?? It is 8 months since I approached the gp for this referral and quite frankly am feeling desolate at the lack of help it is giving me. I have said this is my last attempt. If sexual therapy cannot help then I feel I am best to simply withdraw from relationships and any attempt at sex. Help....what do I do, where do I go ???
I'm a 32 year old woman and have a problem with getting too wet during sex or when becoming aroused during foreplay. I see a lot of women having the opposite problem but no one else seems to have experienced the same problem as me. I'm quite tight down below and don't know if this is my body's natural way of compensating but its becoming really embarrassing especially as I have a new boyfriend and worry what he makes of this. It also seems to be getting worse and often can cause him to slip out when we start getting really into sex which spoils the moment and generally things become quite messy. I have to focus my mind on not getting aroused which goes against the whole point of letting go and enjoying sex, and even that doesn't seem to help much. Is it a hormonal thing- could there be something I could take to reduce the way over the top amount of sexual fluids my body produces... I know we'd both enjoy sex a lot more if it wasn't such a wet affair. Any advice please help!!!!!!!!!!
i am of the same age and have been experiencing the exact same thing and have been looking for the same answer so your not alone!!
I'm 21 and have been with my partner for 10 month, just recently I've started getting a pain after sex its more like trapped wind, is there anything to be worried about?
I am worried and feel like a bit of a freak-but don't want to speak to my doctor about this, i am a female-but when i have sex i get to the point where i orgasm but do not and never have ejaculated. this does get me down a bit because i feel as though im only half enjoying sex-not sure if anyone else has or feels as though they have this problem...
I am a similar age and have been with my boyfriend for a similar amount of time and have experienced the same thing!! We have only had sex maybe 3 or 4 times in the last 2 years and mainly only because I feel bad!! I have been to the doctors numerous amounts of times about the issue and all have said it is down to relationship issues but we love each other so much and both feel our relationship is fine apart from this one issue! It's becoming a big problem now and I am worried my boyfriend will leave me but I just don't have the desire to do it and find it really difficult to talk to anyone about especially my boyfriend because I dont have an explanation I just don't want to do it!! If someone could give me some serious advice instead of saying I need to talk to a sexual councillor about it that would be really great as I don't think talking to a councillor is going to make me want to do it!! Really desperate for help!!
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