Conditions
Paruresis
Have you ever been bursting for a wee, but found that you couldn’t go because other people were present? Well, don’t worry, you might be left dying for the toilet, but Paruresis (or ‘Bashful Bladder’ as it’s otherwise known) won’t kill you. This social anxiety disorder affects around 4 million men and women in the UK and can impact heavily on their daily lives. The most common manifestation of the condition is men who cannot urinate at a urinal and instead find themselves standing next to unzipped, exposed and free-flowing men, as if just a casual observer. Women can also find it difficult to urinate in a cubicle if there are people near by. The condition is caused by a neurological shutdown of the sphincter valves that when open allow urine to flow, but it is completely involuntary. However, several physical and cognitive therapy techniques have been devised to help people cope with this problem.
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i also have this problem uni wen i go clubbin.i have 2 wait 2 use a cubicle it reli annoys me becos i get embarresssed.
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I am 28 and have also had this problem since I was 13 ish. I can only use urinals if there's no one there, but if I am in a cubicle and hear someone coming into the toilets I won't be able to go. It's very annoying.
I spent a lot of time at the GYM and am not a shy person, walking around the changing rooms with no cloths on is not a problem, peeing is a different kettle of fish.
I have had this problem as long as I can remember. I can go wherever without any problem, but as soon as there is somebody in the same space, or i think people have their attention on me e.g. talking to me in a cubicle or in the room when I'm at a urinal, I can't go at all! The worst thing is having to leave witout people realising I've stopped because they've come in, so they don't think 'Why has he just left that urinal to go into a cubicle?' and trying to find a way back in without being seen! Very frustrating.
I'm a 14 year old boy and have been unable to pee using a urinal when it is crowded in a short space of time, it would take me several minutes of standing by it to eventually be able to urinate. However when in a cubicle i can do it easily, unless under pressusre, and when outside i can urinate signifcantly easierly than if at a urinal, im not sure what this means.
I have always had a problem using any Public Toilets from an early age, i always have a problem even in Pubs,etc i wait until the person has come out and i always use the cubical and i sit down to pee,is this normal? it drives me mad but i cant help it ,sometimes i am at bursting point waiting to go i cant even go behind a tree if i am out anywhere where there is no toliets ,is there anyone else like me ….how can i solve this problem i am 54 years old.
If there was one thing I could change about myself, it would be this.
I have a slight problem, When i sneeze i dribble and it feels really wet down below when i laugh i do the same and when this does happen i have to change my pantiliner. When im at college and iv had a laugh or sneeze after i have to ask to go to the loo to change. Its so annoying changing them and wearing them 24/7 every one in my class keeps asking me why do i go to the loo so many times and i just egnor them. I called by to see my GP and he says to do some pelvic floor exercises, but that dont help ither. And on the other hand when im on my periods when i sneeze it pushes my tampon out and that is really annoying and embarrasing.
I'm now 26 and have had this problem since i was about 12. I can only use urinals if there's no one there, but if I hear someone coming in I won't be able to go. So you'll always find me waiting outside a cubicle even though i do be bursting. It's very annoying. It is all a physcological thing if you ask me, I suppose the only way of getting over it is trying urinate in public, the more you do it the less the fear will be. Saying that i haven't tried it myself.
Being a young lad of 18, going out night clubbing is tough. Especially when people are coming in and out of the toilets all the time and the cubicals don't have locks on the doors. Is there any way that you can get this problem sorted out properly?
I have this problem when it comes to being on a train or plane, i can be bursting and just cannot go, i know its psychological as when i start to think that i won't go, i don't! Most frustrating! How do i over come this public transport wee anxiety?
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