iv got to say listening to my loud music through my headphones helps because you cant hear yourself or other people around you... i tried all the breathing techniques and i found it didn't help as much where you music is a simple cure as long as you have it on you... :) good luck

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Every night i have to keep urinating so i get broken sleep. i have to go about 5 or 6 times . ive stopped drinking anything after 6pm but it dosent make much difference. Have i got an infection? it dosent smell nor burn. Thanks

Hey, I'm a 13(nearly 14) year old female; and I think I have a shy bladder? At home I can sit in the toilet for ages playing music and only do a drop of wee. I also only go for a wee once or twice a day. And when it comes to pooing I rarely go..I go like every 3/4 days. I can't go a wee in public toilets ether! I don't even go at school! And when I'm on my period I don't go a wee- I only change my towels every couple of hours. It's all driving me mad and I want it to stop! I want to feel normal again but I don't know how..can anyone help me please?:L

i often find myself not being able to pee in public toilets, either in the urinal or in the cubicle. This may be down to me having ocd but i still can't do it. I even have this trouble at home even though i live alone. I'd rather find a quiet corner of my garden and go there cos i'd be able to focus then but for obvious reasons i don't do this. It's the same when i go out somewhere with friends, and even worse on car journeys. Can anyone help with this problem and offer any advice

I have suffered with this problem my whole life.It has stopped me doing many things and I am sick of the way it has a hold on me.I am a very active person and have passed up oppotunities to climb mountains or run across deserts because I know I just cant pee in public.I am 44 years old and feel stupid asking for help on this matter but I dont want to be held back because of it.

Maybe a good idea to try would be not going into the bathroom with the intention of peeing. It sounds weird but just tell yourself that although you are going into the bathroom, you are not focused on peeing and that it is not your primary goal. Just go in to sit and relax and think about your day or something. When you are unable to pee due to anxiousness, you feel defeated. You give up on trying to go and leave the restroom with a full bladder. This lowers your self esteem about going pee in public, setting you up for future similar incidents.This is because you are so intent on peeing when you go into the bathroom that if you don't accomplish your goal then you are surely going to feel utterly defeated. Pauretics put so much more emphasis on peeing than the rest of the world does. If you stop going into the restroom with such a huge intent on peeing, then you feel less pressure. The next time you have to go pee in public just tell yourself "I'm going into this without any expectation of peeing and if I don't pee, that's ok, I probably wasn't going to be able to anyways with my prior way of thinking." While in the restroom, find something to do such as listening to your music player or looking at pictures on your phone or thinking about future plans. Then, after a little while, try to pee. Don't really think about it just start trying. In fact, you could just start off by not even trying to pee at all for a couple times. Just go into the bathroom, do something that interests you or is relaxing, and then leave. After a couple times, start trying to pee after a little while in the bathroom. The important thing is to grow comfortable in the bathroom. For those with anxiety issues, a lot of there issues stem from a lack of peace and comfort in their surroundings. People have to stop putting so much pressure on themselves to go pee and not corncern themselves with other peoples reactions and feelings. There is no reason to care about what other people think of you. First, it is impossible to know for sure what someone else thinks. Second, you have to come first. You must be more important to yourself than any other human being. If they are judging you, which they usually aren't, so be it. Que sera, sera. Whatever will be, will be. The "condition" of pauresis is not really a condition at all, as those that deal with it are unintentionally bringing it upon themselves. You are your own worst enemy sometimes, and this is what people have realize. In addition, another helpful tip is to wear earplugs in the restroom. Also, sometimes, if it comes down to it, just tell yourself you are going to stay in the restroom as long as it takes to go pee. Tell yourself that people can think all that they want, but your health and happiness is most important. Trust me, taking an hour to go pee will not have a huge negative impact on your life and won't lead to any unhappiness. The only thing that will lead to your unhappiness is holding your bladder. Just have patience with yourself and stay determined and impenetrable and at peace with yourself and life. You have the right to a good life with happiness and without this unnecessary problem. Lastly, this is such a silly, yet unfortunate mental issue that is NOT forever. That is, you can and will forget about it at some point in time. It WILL go away.