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Self Harm

Self-harm occurs when someone deliberately injures themselves, usually as a result of depression or low self esteem. It typically manifests itself as cuts or burns on the skin, though it can also include people swallowing dangerous chemicals or misusing drugs and alcohol. People who self-harm usually do it in secret, and they will often try to hide their injuries from others, and the act of self-harming can in turn lower self-esteem further (through visible injuries) which can turn in to a vicious cycle.

Whilst some people self-harm only once, many people do it on a regular basis and it is hard to know just how widespread the problem is. If you are self harming, or suspect that someone you know may be self-harming, then medical attention should be sought immediately, as there is a higher possibility of suicide, either deliberately or accidentally. The physical damage caused by self-harming can be treated with first aid and by A&E if it is very serious, but the medical staff who treat you will need to refer you for a mental health assessment. Go to NHS Choices to find out more about this process.

For more information please use the following links:

Young Minds
selfharm.co.uk
Mind
National Self Harm Network
NHS Choices – Self Harm
Harmless
The Samaritans

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I recently told my boyfriend I was an ex-self harmer but I relapsed today. Should I tell him?





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how do I go about getting help for my partner she has ptsd she doesn't go out the house she has a history of self harm it been getting worse over the last 12 months and the n h s is not working I had to give up my job to look after her I now feel the self harm will lead to more please help





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Im seeing someone i am really interested in. I trust him and all but im afraid hell judge me if i tell him i used to cut because im scared hell think im stupid or something. should i tell him?????





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If you're interested in him, you should be upfront about your actions and why you did them. This will tell you what his feelings are pretty quickly, allowing you do figure out what to do next. If he reacts badly, you'll know right off the bat that he isn't the person you want to be with, because it's pretty clear that he isn't understanding. On the flip side, if he accepts it, you'll find out that he may be a good partner for you. So, yes, tell him now. It's better to find out where he stands now before feelings develop just in case he isn't the right one.

I dont know what to do anymore! Im 17 almost 18. Now and my doctor has recently said he thinks i may be bipolar and has reffered me to recieve a proper diagnosis its only been a week since i went to the doctors and i cant cope i cant wait any longer im suffering a severe depressed episode and i just want to end it all, i began self harming again, after 6 months of resisting and now i just cant stop i want to end it all but i dont want to hurt my mother in the process so i just feel like im stuck in this horrible world with no meaning to my life i can not do anything right my lifes a mess and has been for years now! What should i do? Go back to my doctor? What would they do? I just want it all to end.





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I've been there too. I feel for you. It's a lot of intense feelings. Go back to your doctor. He or she will know what to do. Be honest with the Dr. I'll tell you one thing though. You end your life, it will affect every one you know. They will never be the same. They will go through a lot of greif for a very long time.

What can help self harm scars? Will it involve surgery, creams or steroid injections?





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I used to self harm about a year ago I fel very ill And end up in a psychiatric ward for the first time in my life I was 21 when I fel ill. I dident know what to do or how to tell Any one that I thought I was loading my mind Flet so slow I truly hit rock bottom at that point Growing up was hard dident have it easy at all Was abused meantily physically and sexuly I was very young when this happen. So I thought every one go thew it So I never told any one. One day I flet that low. I thought about ending my life. Went to work done my shift wet home told my family I love them and il be back soon. I went some were to jump sat Thir for an hour cryed abit try to talk my self out of it. But I couldn't I just wanted the hurt to stop and be free. I was about to do it when I heard some one voice they pulled be back and call the police they took me to a and me got out on a 136. I was so angry with them for saving my life. So for a year and a half I was in hoptail slowing getting better. I started to talk and tell people how I feel and the hurt slowly when away started to feel me agin got out on tables. I look at my. Scars and I say to my self I'm a survivor and alway will be. And all of you guys are Thir is light at the end of the tunnel. Talking dose help phone some if you feel low don't suffer in silence. Together we can beat it. I have iv got a beautiful baby on the way now hopefully getting married soon. If I can do it I know you can xx





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I self harm and have told 5 friends and one adult. I don't self harm any less, maybe even more and I'm thinking about telling them I've stopped as they always ask about it and try to get me to tell my mom. I wouldn't suggest telling people unless you have cut too deep as it just makes it worse tbh xx





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I used to self harm a lot, but i haven't for over a year. Recently one of my deeper scars has become raised at one end, red and very itchy. I have no idea what has caused this as it has never done this before and is fully healed, normally flat to the skin and a purple colour. Any clue what has happened?





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I'm 31 just started self harming after years of wanting to my god what the hell am I doing I hate I've lost control after dealing with issues for 23 years it's just all caught up





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I'm 17 and I have been self harming since I was 12 and my scars that are left behind are really bad. My mum and sister know I self harm but think I have stopped. I don't want to tell them I still do it cause they have already said I'm just attention seeking, what can I do? Also is there any way I can get rid of the old scar that are still really noticeable? When I'm out in the sun they go purple and red and I'm embarrassed incase they know they are from self harm, how can I get rid of them?





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While reading the problems that you have I notice that you deciding to self-harm because you have problems with seeking the attention. The best thing to do is to speak with your family about the feelings, needs and problems which you may have so they will have better understanding of you and because of that they are going to take more attention to you because they will know everything that you may be worrying about or need help with.





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