hello, im 16 and have been having sex with my parent since i was 14; at first it never used to hurt but recently its start to hurt alot; i sometimes have to push him away as it hurts so much and i feel like im letting him down with this 'problem' i feel really weird going to the doctors about it, but i have look at some leaflets but they dont seem to help me. can you please tell me what the problem is and if there is anything to stop the pain, thankyou (:

Heya, im 20, almost 21 and I've been with my current boyfriend almost 2 years. at first sex was fine with no problems and in the past I've never really had any problems with sex, but I did have very frequent unbarable bladder infections at one point a few years back. in the last year for some reason having sex with my partner is very painfull and I find myself wanting to avoid atempting it most times which isnt nice :( When we do try, It really hurts at first and he even says sometimes that its so tight that its pulling his foreskin back too much, but after the intial breaking through feeling, I feel myself get nice moist and its pretty normal from there. After sex its really sore for about 2 days and burns a little. Nearly every single time the back of my vulva, the skin just at the back of the entrance to the vagina Tears and that is painful and usually bleeds a little. I have yet to seek any medical advice as I am very embarassed to talk to a doctor about this. I have got some durex gel to try out. I think it will help a little but I really dont think it will help me loosen up.

Sometimes i feel normal but it wont go in easily, sometimes i feel scared from the fear of the pain.

I have Never used tampons and I Never even consider masterbation as it doesnt even interest me.

I want to feel the urge for sex but I Hardly ever do.

Ever since i was 16 and was starting to have my first sexuall relationship I Hate being fingered and only rarely let my partner do it, since to me it doesnt feel nice and ive had times where ive been cut inside from there fingernail accidently.

I Recently did a Chlamydia test to see if perhaps that could anything to do with it, I've only had 3 sexuall partners ever, the first 2 were virgins, and my current has had a few previous girlfriends. I have reason to believe my ex did cheat on me although he swore he never did… The Test came back as positive and i was really upset. my current partner took the test and his came back negative. Hes lucky he didnt catch it so i worked out if not from him then i must of had it a maxium of about 1 year. I took the antibiotics but there is still no difference to my situation. Even the tiny little cotton bud swab i had to use for the test hurt when i tried to put it in :/

From what i've been reading it seams alot of people are having simular pain and feelings to me so I do think perhars i do have this Vaginismus. What is the best thing to do? :(

Hi,im 19 and ive been sexually active with my boyfriend for about 6 months now. When we started having sex,the pain is unbearable. When it goes in, it feels like a "break wall" is in the way and causes lots of pain and agony. During and after there is alot of burning sensation and stinging. I had thrush but now cleared but still no different. Cant physically cope any longer. Please help.

I just wanted to say how much of a life saver this page is. I've been with my boyfriend for 16 months and have been sexually active with him for 14. at first sex was fine but after a few times i would tense up and it meant that he couldn't penetrate me at all despite using many different types of contraception and lubricants. i have never been able to comfortably use tampons and i don't find masterbation very pleasurable. i went to my GP and he suggested vaginal dryness and pescribed me with a cream to insert every 3 days. this made no difference to our problem. it was confusing as sometimes i could have sex successfully and other not at all as it was accommpanied by a burning sensation and tightness, this varation wasn't connected with the amount of foreplay we had. thanks to this site i now believe i have vaginismus and i will book an appointment with my GP as soon as possible. Thank you so much as i always felt so guilty for not being able to have sex with my partner :)

heya,im 13 going to be 14 next year i have had boys touching me places around down below but when ever me and someone plans on meeting up for stuff if you no what i mean i tend to get drunk and make them get drunk so they cant remember what im like down below + im really tight i can on get about 1/3 o 2 fingers up me after that its really sore so im scared to have sex i no im too young but im ready for it and im happy to do it but im just embarressed what they might think can you help me? if you can then thanks alot its means alot me to thanks you :D

hey, am 20 years old and have been sexually active for about five year, i was with my first boyfriend for several year and everything was fine. once we split up i started seeing someone else, after we had sex i became in alot of pain my stomach and vagina swelled up that bad i could hardly breath and i became really ichy and a feeling of paper cuts around the outside of my vagina. i was in and out of hospital for months i whent through every test and examination possible, had all the STI checks twice they thought it may effect me having kids then realised i could, then had to have a smear test (even though underage) as they thought it could be cancer the doctors and specialists didnt have a clue what it was, me and my boyfriend broke up. nothing was diagnosed and was left, i didnt get close to anyone for along time, now i am with someone new and we started having sex and it happened all over again, i thought i was allergic to condoms so used the non latex ones but made no difference, so i whent on the pill and once again i got really bad stomach pain and problems with my vagina. its really bothering me as i am unable to be intermate with my boyfriend, and no one can diagnose it. i dont get any fluid or any pain during sex there aint a smell of anything like that but just pain after sex. its been happening for few year now and i am really worried and fed up about it please help.

hiya,im 14, nearly 15 and the other day my boyfriend tried to poke me but could only fit in one finger and found it really difficult to fit in two

i felt really embarrassed because he said he hasnt had a problem before with other girls.

i'm not normally tight but recently i have become really tight :S.i don't know what it is and i am really worried.

i also have this sort of lump inside my vagina near the top, about 2 inches in and its quite big , which means i can't insert a tampon properly , it wont go in far enough.

i am too embarrased to talk to anybody because i live with my dad.

please help me

thanks so much x

hi
ive been sexually active with my boyfriend for around 2 months now and it has always been frequent, there have been times when it has been 4 times in a day. But just recently after alot of sex, my vagina becomes swollen and sore. my boyfriend has also noticed slight tearing of my vagina too.
it generally goes away after a day or two, and i'm ok to have sex again.
i have no idea what it is, but its starting to scare me
please help me

i am 43 and i have had abdominal pain for over 2 years. Un-diagnosed at ER visits, that included CT scans and ultra sounds. They sometimes would tell me I have an ovarian cyst. The past several months the pain has been so bad, I literally thought I was dying. It is swful. I went to a doctor that told me about vagina spasms and musles of the pelvic floor, some abdominal muscles.. etc.. that go into spasms and lock up and cause very bad pain. This can cause the ligaments and tendons that attatch to the uretha and bladder to pull on the uretha and bladder and cause continued bladder infections and also irritation and/or infection of the uretha. I have to use some dispositories with medicine from a compund pharmacy to hyelp stop the spasms. I am getting physical therapy. Like when we have back pain and musles have spasms in the back or neck etc. The same thing. It triggers pain and it radiates to other areas. I know when I get stressed right now it makes all my pelvic musles go into spasms. It's like people get headaches when stressed etc. Same thing.

I may also have some colon stuff going on. It is very hard to tell. I am going to do a colon test I hope soon to rule that out or fix something. But when I am peaceful and my physical therapy is flowing .. I was doing much better. Right now I am sick again. bad pain. On antibiotics for bladder infection again. But when I go to doctors and tell them I don't feel good they do a urine and tell me I'm fine, but with in a few days to a week I get a call from the doctor the the culture grew out and I was right.. I have a bladder infection. It sucks. Its painful and confusing and I am sick of meds.
The say that if the uretha is being pulled by the ligaments and muscles being tight it can cause the uretha to stay open there fore causing infection to happen.
Anything anyone has to add to help me I would be greatful.. anyone who my story helps.. I'm glad

I am female (17 years old) and have had problems with my vigina and water works since i have had a sexually active relationship since last september until the present. i have been with one other person before this on several occassions at the begining of last year but never seemed to have problems then. Since this sexual relationship started last year I have had problems such as water infections over several months, literaly one after the other. however this has faded and i have not had on for the past 5 months. i am now suffering from what i thought was thrush as my vigina became swore a little itchy and sex was impossible as the burning sensation during and after was unbearable, over the last 2 months. i went to see my doctor and he gave me a pessary and cream. after a while it faded but not fully, however it has recently come back, instead of the doctors i went to the GUM clinic where i got swabs and was tested for everything, meawhile i was given 6 pessarys and cream to use over the week until i went to recieve my results the following week. i returned and was told everything was negative i didnt have thrush or anything. however when i was examined i was so red and swollen. the doctor suggested it was vaginismus, and recommnded ky jelly, full stimulation of the vigina before sex and no soapy products. however myself and my partner do use ky jelly i feel totally relaxed, we are normally fully stimulated before sex and there are normally alot of fluids and i dont use soapy products. i know vaginismus is physcological as i have read up on it and i know my problem is obviously secondary as ive had alot of pain free sex with my partner before this however i have had no harrowing past fears or doubts about my partner that i can think of that my make me tense apart from expecting it will hurt because on other experiences it has. this problem has only happend the past 2 months when i supposedly had thrush, times before that it was painful due to infections but that was treat with antibiotics and alot of them whish i refused to take in the end. i have the implant in my arm and i got that in last september at the start of my sexual relationship with my present partner, i dont know wether this can affect it. i feel very low at the moment as my sex life is non existent and i feel i am letting my partner down and feel he wants to go elsewhere however he is very supportive about the whole thing. i had no problems 2months back i just need to be normal again and have a healthy sex life could it be any infections he hasI am female and have had problems with my vigina and water works since i have had a sexually active relationship since last year until the present. i have been with one other person before this on several occassions but never seemed to have problems then. Since this sexual relationship started last year I have had problems such as water infections over several months, literaly one after the other. however this has faded and i have not had on for the past 5 months. i am now suffering from what i thought was thrush as my vigina became swore a little itchy and sex was impossible, over the last 2 months. i went to see my doctor and he gave me a pessary and cream. after a while it faded, however it has recently come back, instead of the doctors i went to the GUM clinic where i got swabs and was tested for everything, meawhile i was given 6 pessarys and cream to use over the week untile i went to recieve my results the following week. i returned and was told everything was negative i didnt have thrush or anything. however when i was examined i was so red and swollen. the doctor suggested it was vaginismus, and recommnded ky jelly, full stimulation of the vigina before sex and no soapy products. however myself and my partner do use ky jelly i feel totally relaxed, we are fully stimulated before sex and there are alot of fluids and i dont use soapy products. i know vaginismus is physcological as i have read up on it anc my problem is obviously secondary however i hae had no harrowing past fears or doubts about my partner. this problem has only happend the past 2 months when i supposedly had thrush, times before that it was painful dueto infections but that was treat with antibiotics and alot of them. i have the implant in my arm and i got that in last september at the start of my sexual relationship with my present partner, i dont know wether this can affect it. i feel very low at the moment as my sex life is non existent and i feel i am letting my partner down and feel he wants to go elsewhere however he is very supportive. i had no problems 2months back i just need to be normal again. could it be an infection he may have? or would this have come up when i had all the tests?please please please help.