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Dr Pixie V/O:
42 year old, Debbie, is so embarrassed by her vagina, she’s paid it no attention at all. A mum of three, Debbie’s happy marriage has split open since giving birth to a very large baby boy, Samuel.

Debbie:
It’s not till afterwards, weeks later, when you’ve gone to have sex, that I realised that there was something drastically wrong and I literally, I just screamed and pushed him off, and i’ve pushed him away ever since, really.
I felt like, my sex life is over.

Debbie’s partner:
The last two and a half years have been kind of a a strange journey, really. She doesn’t really like me to touch her or anything like that, em, obviously, I’m still a man and it’s still, you know, I still want to.

Dr Pixie:
Debbie’s had enough of suffering in silence.

Debbie:
I look like a woman, but, I’m not a proper woman.

Debbie V/O:
Inside I’m mangled.

Dr Pixie V/O:
She’s come to our clinic to see Dr Harper.

Debbie:
Hello.

Dr Harper:
Come and take a seat.Tell me, what are we doing for you today?

Debbie:
Em, well, two and a half years ago I had my son and since then I’ve had problems, em, with my vagina. It seems really loose.

Dr Harper:
So you think you might have split the vaginal wall?

Debbie:
Definitely feels different, like now when I have sex I have no sensation down there at all.

Dr Harper:
Can you use tampons, for example?

Debbie:
The only ones that work really are the super plus extra ones and my friend’s had her period and she didn’t have any tampons and when I pulled out the ones I had she burst out laughing. I feel like I’m old and internally damaged and scarred.

Dr Harper:
We need to do something about that. We ought to have a little look.
Alright Debbie, what I want you to do first of all is just to strain down, a bit like you were just trying to open your bowels. Ok, the wall of your rectum is actually just coming actually out of the vaginal opening. I’m just gonna pop a speculum in.
You’ve actually got weakness at the front and the back, Debbie. What I’m gonna get you to do now is just to pop onto your left side.

Debbie:
Yep.

Dr Harper:
Curled up like a baby. Alright.

Dr Pixie V/O:
The muscles in Debbie’s vagina are so loose that her bladder and rectum are pushing through it, causing her to leak both urine and faeces.

Dr Harper:
You’re going to need an operation just to, to tighten all that up, but that’s probably quite straight forward. So, if you wanna pop your things on, alright, and I’ll drop a letter to the gynaecologist to get a second opinion.

Dr Pixie V/O:
Debbie suffered for two and a half years but her cry for help is being answered.

Debbie:
OK, thank you. Bye.

Debbie V/O:
I can’t begin to explain how nice it is to think that everything can be put back to how it was before, be like a virgin.

Debbie:
Nice knickers.[laughs]

Debbie V/O: Now, I’m worried about afterwards, whether my expectations are too high.

Dr Pixie:
Debbie’s problem is that the walls of her vagina are under pressure from both sides. Her rectum is trying to force its way through the back wall while her bladder is pushing through from the front. The surgeon is pushing the rectum back and then stitching the walls of the vagina in order to strengthen it.

Surgeon:
It’s a very dibilitating and embarrassing process whereby she lost urine and lost faeces as well as she had a loss of sexual subsection. So maybe if she didn’t have surgery, as time went on and she got older she would get-

Dr Pixie:
It’s four weeks since Debbie’s operation to tighten her vagina. It was so damaged by childbirth, her list of problems was endless. She’s back to share her most intimate secrets with Dr Harper.

Debbie:
I can just about fit a tampon inside. [laughs]

Dr Harper:
That’s a result, isn’t it? I mean you must feel much better in yourself.

Debbie:
Yeah, it’s just, it’s really improved my quality of life.

Dr Harper:
So, have you dared try sex yet?

Debbie:
No, it’s too soon. I’ve gotta wait another two weeks. He still hasn’t seen.

Dr Harper:
Has he not?

Debbie: No!

Dr Harper:
When’s he gonna get the unveiling?

Debbie:
Hopefully soon, I’ve wrote a date on the calendar.

Dr Harper:
Have you?

Debbie:
Two weeks time [laughs]

Dr Harper:
Have you really?

Debbie:
Yeah

Dr Harper:
And, and basically, that’s six weeks from the op because you’ve probably been told, have you, that you need to just let yourself heal for the next six weeks.

Debbie:
Yes, yes, that’s correct.

Dr Harper:
I think that’s a complete result, isn’t it.

Debbie:
Mm, yeah, it’s very very good, isn’t it.

Dr Harper:
Well you look like a different girl.

Debbie:
Yeah, well I am! I’m like a virgin now! [they laugh]

Dr Harper:
There will be literally thousands of women in the UK in the position that Debbie was in before she went for her operation, and I would say to each and every one of them, please go and see your GP and ask for help. I mean, just look at the difference it’s made to her. It says it all.

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Consultation: Vaginal Prolapse

Dr Harper examines a woman who has suffered a prolapsed vagina after the birth of her bouncing baby boy.

Remember that you should always check with a health professional if you have any concerns about your health.

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I watched the video of Debbie and I know I have a problem . I suffer from ibs and only go to the toilet once a fortnight r so. I changed my diet and went to my gp for help I was told to excersise my pelvic floor. I know when I need to do a motion because when I dry myself I can feel the build up it protrudes into my vagina. debbies picture is the way I am. I havnt had sex in 2 years because I hate the way I look and feel.is there anywere I can get help .





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i am a 61 year old woman and i am constantly wetting my self some time i dont know i have wet when i stand up i am wet what can i do





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I am a 61 year old with a prolapse womb.I have tried pessaries but they fall out. I go running and gym. I have been to the hospital and was told it is not life threatening. I don't want a hysterectomy. Was told they could damage my bladder or bowel or an infection doing a repair. I don't want to finish up with more problems. The prolapse is very bad sometimes I have to lay down before it will go back in. What do you suggest I could do.





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Hi everyone, I'm 23yrs old and I've suffered a rectal and bladder prolapse after the birth of my baby. I was told I could have surgery but I will need to have my second child or how many I want first. The only problem is it kills to have sex, its uncomfortable, and it feels like my muscles are about to fall out all the time (sorry for the graphic imagery). Now my daughter is 2 and I have done kegel exercises daily and I've joined a gym to work out on other muscles, but I feel its all in vain. I have a lot of scarring tissue, due to the vontouse (and adding the fact I was pushing for longer then 45mins didn't help aswell) so my v.walls definitely don't feel normal and I'm scared to even attempt physical contact with my partner. I feel like the hospital is over looking my problems. What should I do?





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I have sex before the doctor prescrib me as bladder prolapse. Doing sex in 3 weeks of delivery of baby that's makes bladder prolapse. Tied wrapping stomach after deliary to bring stomach in normal size that's makes bladder prolapse but my stomach is same as big like I'm pregnant I used to carry baby in car seat after 2weeks of delivery makes bladder prolapse or working in kitchen after delivery makes bladder prolapse please!!! Please!!! Please!!! Te me





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I would speak to your Dr and ask for physiotherapy training. Lots of women with pelvic organ prolapse aren't able to identify their pelvic floor muscles properly. A pessary may help support the prolapse. NHS offer a limited range of pessaries (mainly the ring is prescribed but there are others available from medical companies. I would recommend the T pessary as this was designed for cystocele and rectocele prolapses. As they come in all sizes you will need to be measured by your Dr first.

do you keep weeing? You may need uro dynamics to diagnose the bladder prolapse properly. A TVT can rectify this problem.

Hi I'm 29 and I have a boy.i have bladder prolapse after 28 days of delivery of my child.i was doing as usy daily activities I feel like frequent urination so I think what going on me and touch my vagina I feel like a ballon up to the surface. I was wearing too tight cloths around my stomach because it will help to come back stomach in normal size.i untied it and went to hospit and the doctor told me I have bladder prolapse.when I walk for 20 mins the front wall of vagina comes little Dow and feel uncomfortable but not feeling of any ball.in same week my husband lie over me for few mins but no sex then the next day I feel something inside my vagina and feels soft ball sitting high above the vegina I try to push but won't go back.i went to doctor he said I was not heal from delivery and it goes away after 6 months.im now 5months sti feeling heavy discomfort there. I feel like to die but I love my son so no.i look my son and crying all time when my husband out. Please!!! Please !!! Please !!! Tell me does it goes away? If yes when? If not y doctor don't car me just saying it goes way after a while.





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I'm 22 years old and had my baby boy 6 months ago iv recently had a coil fitted but since giving birth when I'm having sex with my boyfriend it's often painful and he said to me that my vagina feels blocked ?? I have had a feel myself I too feel as though something inside me has collapsed





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My vagina is the same when I sit down my vagina opens and it feels really tight since I had my to kids at vagina birth and its always bleeding. I've been to see the doctor but he won't do anything plz help





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can a person have prolapse surgery if she is on her period.





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Im pregnant and have something that looks the same is it normal please help??





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